Advice

Why adoption disclosure is crutial?

1) Why is it critical to let an adopted child know of his/ her adoption. Adoption defines the child’s identity. Growing up with a false sense of his/her identity will severely impact the child later in life. The child should receive the information from the parents and not ‘by accident’ from an outsider. This would destroy the child’s trust in…

Should I tell my child that he or she was adopted?

Robert has a life that many Singaporeans envied. He comes from a wealthy family, attends IVY league school, works at a large MNC, and dates a beautiful girl. Robert’s girlfriend, a Vietnamese American, always tell Robert that she has an elder brother, who has been adopted by a Singaporean couples years ago, and she wishes that one day she could find him. She doesn’t know…

Top ten myths about foreign adoption in Singapore

1. Children adopted from abroad are all disabled, or disturbed.The vast majority of children from abroad are healthy, happy children. Most of the time birthparents want to put up their babies for adoption because of financial or personal reasons, not because their babies are sick. A reliable adoption agency will do all the necessary health screening to make sure that the…

Bonding with your adopted infant

How can I bond with a baby that “isn’t mine”? Normal infants are able to form attachments with any caregiver. Some parents feel an instant bond when they meet and hold their infant. For most, however, bonding is a gradual process, taking weeks and sometimes months. More than 50 percent of our adoptive families, when asked to recall those first…