Growing up, Marcus Khoo often received curious questions from his friends about his background. They wondered why he looked so much darker than his mother. The truth is, Marcus is adopted. “A lot of people ask me if I’m Chinese. By right, I’m supposed to be, but because of my skin colour, they always think that I’m from a different…
Two sets of loving parents and one very loved child share their adoption stories – stories of blessings, life, love and hope. Children are a blessing and having children of your own is a wonderful thing. But for those who find themselves unable to conceive, it doesn’t mean that you’ll never be able to enjoy the fruits of parenthood. There…
Robert has a life that many Singaporeans envied. He comes from a wealthy family, attends IVY league school, works at a large MNC, and dates a beautiful girl. Robert’s girlfriend, a Vietnamese American, always tell Robert that she has an elder brother, who has been adopted by a Singaporean couples years ago, and she wishes that one day she could find him. She doesn’t know…
How can I bond with a baby that “isn’t mine”? Normal infants are able to form attachments with any caregiver. Some parents feel an instant bond when they meet and hold their infant. For most, however, bonding is a gradual process, taking weeks and sometimes months. More than 50 percent of our adoptive families, when asked to recall those first…
Most of us who adopt spent years contemplating the decision to adopt. But some expect our families to be completely supportive of that decision immediately. We forget that we may have struggled ourselves with questions about whether or not to adopt; what age of child to adopt; what sex; or what race…. So we should give our families time to…